Process Of Letting GO

As Buddha Said ” In the end only 3 things will matter, how much you loved, how gently you lived and how gracefully you let go of things, not meant for you”. We all talk about letting go, detachment and indifference to outcome approach towards life, but what is the rightful way of achieving this goal, let’s set a guideline and learn more about how to let go. There are many ways of letting go, it’s not easy plus it does require lots of patience and diligent effort but, once you have followed these steps and worked on developing a letting go muscle out of it, life can become tremendously happy, peaceful and amazing. There are so many instances where we have to let go of so many things in our daily life. Before we jump into the process, lets understand what are we letting go off, what is the actual things we need to get over with. The answer is very simple, it’s “THE ATTACHMENTS”. It could be attachments to your thoughts either negative or positive, attachment to people, outcomes, expectations, beliefs and systems. It’s important to understand that the attachments are not just to positive outcomes but we do get attached to negative outcomes also, it’s like getting attached to thoughts of loneliness, depression, sadness. We just keep thinking about these thoughts and keep lingering on to those anxious feelings instead of simple letting go. Similar manner we attach ourselves to happiness thoughts and in turn run away from thoughts for sadness, but in life the right balance comes from both. I m not saying to be sad, that’s where we use the let go faculty of our mind and make a choice of not getting affected by those thoughts, feelings and situations. These are my few approaches how I Let go: Coming into state Mindfulness or state of complete awareness towards your surrounding, thoughts and emotions. You must have read this a lot,what everyone says about being present, being available in now not lost in past or future thoughts, just and just being available in here. That is exactly what we need to do, to be present or here in this context be more mindful and aware. The reason we are raising our awareness level is just to bring ourselves out from the world of thoughts, whenever we are more aware and present in present moment, we are far far away from our thoughts, without thoughts there are no attachments to any particular feelings or emotions. Which makes this is an excellent way of letting go, when we are present, we can let go very easy. Purpose is to make your mind quiet, kill the chatter, we can do walking meditation, sitting meditation or any other way what you feel is best. . Understanding the Impermanent nature of things been said or happened. Understand, one day you will pass away, nothing is inevitable, nothing stays forever, things are changing by moments. If you won’t live forever, so will your anger or greed. Plus time is a biggest healer, it makes your forget things even the most horrendous of all. Experience that impermanence and based on your experience start letting go, just forgive, stop the thinking and let go. So why give power to time and live on its mercy to forget things, rather then taking control of the situation and forget things on your own will by using the power of forgiveness and compassion. Develop the muscle of forgetting things faster by bringing more love and compassion in your life and approach of forgiveness towards others. Dropping the thought: As per our may abilities, there is one most important is ability to memorise, and thing to notice is we remember bad things happened to us way more than good ones. These memories keeps on bringing those bad thoughts back again and again, it could be something someone did or said, or some bad experience from past. Sometimes, the emotion will become so heavy that it will lead to continuous loop of thoughts and you will find yourself thinking and rolling in a bad cycle of overthinking the same thought over and over. During those times, the best solution is simply shutting down your mind by dropping the thought, doing something else like exercise, cleaning or work, rather than keeping the thinking on. Even stop talking back to yourself about that particular thought which is disturbing you. But breaking the pattern of your thoughts and mind. Learn more about dropping the thoughts, click here. Understanding the value of things said or taken away. No one can take away anything from you or give you something until you let them. We are and will be surrounded by people everywhere we go and life will always happen where there are people. Means there will always be possibility of someone hurting you emotionally. Plus we don’t know, what is other person’s intention when he says something, did he really wanted to hurt you, or he said this out of a concern or he wanted to be mean or not mean but caring to you.Maybe he is also not aware of what his actions or words are doing. We can never know that, but one thing we are definitely sure of is, he will not be remembering what he said or did, after sometime. But we will remember that forever, for our entire life. It means you are still giving energy to that particular incident even after many years, whereas the other person has completely forgotten it. There is no harm in remembering things but if you are giving energy to a thought, then why not give it those thoughts which will benefit you, not to ones which takes away your peace. Be wise and be forgiving and reduce these attachments to hurt and wrong been done to you knowingly or unknowingly. Claim your own power and let go for better peace. Learn more about forgiveness, click here. Control: 99% of things we can’t control, so what’s the point of suffering for things which are not in your control and changing moment by moment. Let’s give away that control and be more flexible and accepting towards this beautiful life. Let’s start letting go. Raise your level of acceptance and awareness and then just simply let go. Thanks CalmMindpower.com submitted by /u/Morchelos [link] [comments]